Creating real connection with someone who sees things differently? That takes a lot more effort. To build connection you have to go out of your way to show you care, expressing genuine interest and a willingness to wade into the waters of vulnerability. It requires patience, effort, and a genuine ability to sit with discomfort.

When you don't have much in common with the people around you, belonging starts to feel like a performance. You're included, technically. You're on the list, you get the invite, you show up. But there's little actual connection underneath it. We’re experiencing belonging in name only, and it’s exhausting.